Growing up, February 14th wasn’t a holiday I looked forward to or planned for, so when the morning came and my mom made waffles with ice cream, I got to go to school and share candy with my classmates, and then come home to a heart shaped chocolate cake… it was a pretty great day….
Category: Personal
Surviving Uncertainty to Thrive in the Ordinary
The day I turned 21 my father celebrated his 50th (birthday twins) so we made sure to party. I had a gathering with my friends one weekend, I went out with my family the next, and if I’m honest, I felt on top of the world. My academics were on track to allow me graduate…
Unexpected Outcomes (unexpected to some…)
A testimony by a Republican senator circulated recently where he shared his concern with the vote he made in favor of anti-abortion legislation. By the time I post this blog, I promise I will have watched it, but at this time, if I’m honest, I still haven’t had the heart to listen. I understand everybody…
Why We Definitely Need Pride
When I first sent out information about my abortion, I got a loving response expressing confusion about being “proud.” If an abortion is just a medical procedure, why should there need to be pride surrounding it? It was impossible for me to answer without relating the question to my queer identity: “I didn’t want to…
So What Now?
My original post was written and scheduled before the shooting in Uvalde, which was one day before the two year anniversary of George Floyd’s death at the hands of police. I can’t know how these events are impacting you, but I hope you are finding outlets for your feelings. I don’t have anything to add…
You Know Someone Who’s Had an Abortion
I grew up in a kind of Christianity that believed in purity culture. My parents weren’t raised with this, weren’t a part of the children’s ministry, and didn’t know what to look for. I assumed it was the norm and didn’t know to ask about it. I was taught if I had sex outside of…
It’s Not All Sunshine and Rainbows
One thing my friends know about me (and now you do too) is I’m an unapologetic social media “stalker” (in quotes because I consider social media public and therefore I’m not actually stalking). The other day I found myself on my mother’s Facebook account (nobody is safe from my wrath) and found some blog posts…
“I Saw That You Are A Christian…”
When I got to the States after Peru, I was looking for my fifth therapist in less than a year. At the time, I was starting to believe there was something super wrong with me even though all logical evidence pointed to different situational factors (ex: the contract with IJM ending meaning the therapy with…
“Are You Excited and Celebrating?”
My friend asked if I was celebrating as he met me on the patio for coffee. I looked up from my drink with tired eyes as cars passed honking and took up the space I had to answer. I wasn’t sure what to say. He knew I had come from a march, but didn’t he…
A Year in Review or About to be Recreated?
I’ve warned you about long posts in the past, but this one is by far the longest. To celebrate my birthday, some friends I met while in Bolivia came to visit. As you can imagine, whenever you have friends from one aspect of life step into another, it becomes surreal, and although we’ve visited each…